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Halloween with Wonder Woman & Word Girl

Had a great trip north to visit some of the cousins and my Aunt Gayle yesterday and today.  Had the pleasure of getting totally drenched in rainy Oregon with Wonder Woman and Word Girl last night trick or treating.  It was good to be with family and enjoy the dress up/candy excitement of the little ones.  These two still seem to be contemplating the fact that I am the same age as their father (still asking, are you a kid or an adolescent?).  I am happy to know they sense my young heart.

Wonder Woman, Pink Cow Girl AKA Pinkie, & Word Girl Photo taken by Micah Sheller

Wonder Woman, Pink Cow Girl AKA Pinkie, & Word Girl
Photo taken by Micah Sheller


Living Between Life and Death: A Tribute to Uncle Hal

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Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do. -Brené Brown

Today I gave a message at the Eugene Mennonite Church and below here is the take away.

I would like each of you to consider if you only had 6 days left on Earth, like Uncle Hal had from the day he admitted on hospice – are you living the life you want to be living? Do those you love and cherish know how you define a good death -for an instance do you want to die at home, amongst family or friends? And, are you in pain? How are you sharing your pain with others? Please do not suffer alone.
I leave you with this…
Grief never ends…but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith…It is the price of love.

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Waves of Grief

Just when I start feeling stronger, heart full, mind clear…something hits me again.  Stomach hurts, head hurts…I sit, meditate, or try to catch up on some much needed sleep.  Yesterday I plunked on the piano for the first time in….who knows how long.  Trying to find some music for a tribute I’m working on for next weekend.  Shall I call it the pre-memorial?  I’m not sure but something was telling me I needed to tell my story of my final hours with Uncle Hal.  And there’s probably some other messages weaved in there that I’m only just now unearthing.

One thing I’ve let go this year is my photoblog ritual.  Perhaps I’ll be re-committing to this again.  In any case here are a some photos from before Uncle Hal died. Oh and part of today’s horoscope:  Relax your resistance and trust your intuition to teach you how to navigate the murky waters of your heart.

10/11/15: The Violin owned by Word Girl (Amelia) or Wonder Woman (Alice) my Star Gazer Star Dancers

10/11/15: The Violin owned by Word Girl (Amelia) or Wonder Woman (Alice) my Star Gazer Star Dancers

10/13/15: Entry to Uncle Hal's Office, I say goodbye

10/13/15: Entry to Uncle Hal’s Office, I say goodbye

10/12/15: The Hunt, trying to find His Story to read and print for his boys

10/12/15: The Hunt, trying to find His Story to read and print for his boys

Uncle's Organization: Wishing I had a wall for a chalkboard like this!

Uncle’s Organization: Wishing I had a wall for a chalkboard like this!

One of his beloved bike bags: Where is he going now?

One of his beloved bike bags: Where is he going now?


Family Time

A walk today at Alton Baker park was just what the doctor ordered!  Great time to catch up with my friend and breath in the fresh air.  We came across this family on our walk, their young daughter was singing in the tree.IMGP4618Then we came across this family making there way through the park.  I imagine they were walking to their own jingle.  IMGP4619


Lessons of Gayle

Today marks the 65th birthday of my Aunt Gayle. My heart is full thinking of her many lessons over my 35 years of living. Her home welcomed my family and me at 6 weeks of age moving from Modesto, California to Springfield, Oregon. A back bedroom on C Street that years later became my room once again. Gayle has taught me many lessons of love, forgiveness, patience, music, faith, and reaching for dreams. She has been there to answer the hard questions, to affirm the soul of me when I was questioning everything. She taught me how to play piano, knit, keep an organized calendar, and that money doesn’t always come with strings attached. Thank you dear Auntie, glad I could always be your “baby girl.” IMGP3794


Lau Family

The trip to California provided me with a plethora of things and one of those was the opportunity to connect with my mom.  A bucket list item of mine, the first trip I have ever taken solo with my mom and something I’m grateful I thought to do and ask for.  Sharing family stories and experiences from earlier days as we made our way south, this time together was rich.  My Aunt Lily (Sister #1 of 6 in my mom’s family) let me pick out some paintings that my Aunt Peggy (Sister #3) had created in her younger years (her painting is on the right).  Today I took some time to add her painting to my Lau corner.  This part of my family has risen from war torn years in China, adapted to life in Hong Kong, and then the United States.  I’m ever so honored Gong-gong and Poh-poh (my grandparents) came to the U.S. to pursue their dreams of education for their daughters, which would eventually help pave the way for me.     IMGP3897


California Road Trip

I made the trek to Los Angeles and back with my Ma for graduation.  What a fantastic time full of family, friends, and fantastic weather.  There was more than 28 hours of total driving with two stops in Sacramento as well as time in Studio City, Pasadena, Upland, as well as Los Angeles.  Here are just a few captures in a very meaningful journey through my birth state.

Path at Aunt Wanda's

Path at Aunt Wanda’s

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Aunt Wanda’s front porch 5/16/13

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IMGP3885USC Shrine Auditorium Ceiling USC Shrine Auditorium Ceiling Graduation Night 5/17/13